Every relationship, sooner or later, meets with hurdles and problems; And this is natural. You may hear your partner say
“You are not the same!”
“You don’t understand!”
“This is not working!”
HA! How easy it would have been if we knew before hand what problems we may face… As experts say – ” if you could recognize what the relationship problem would be, you will have a much better chance of tacking and facing it.”
Well, that’s true, but how do we Get to know that? LET’S SEE!!!
The root of all relationship problems are poor communication skills, says Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author of Blending Families. “You can’t communicate while you’re checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section,” she says.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT!!
Think of the first time when you spoke to your partner, you will realize that you have given your hundred percent attention to him/her. Your eye contact, body posture and most of all you would be listening nt just hearing. ARE YOU DOING THAT STILL???
Problem-solving strategies:
- Time…time…time … get some “Quality time” with each other. Put those cell phones off for a while, and if you have kids, just tuck them off to bed, and then… just talk about yourselves.
- Set up some rules … like not interrupting, AND NO YELLING! until the other is through, banning phrases such as “You always …” or “You never …”
- Communication is all about listening, so be sure your body language reflects that. Give you whole attention on your partner. That means, no doodling, picking at your nails, or gaping sidewards at the T.V. etc. Nod so the other person knows you’re getting the message and rephrase if necessary, such as, “What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we’re both working.” If you’re right, the other can confirm, and if what the other person really meant was, hey, you’re a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you, perhaps they’ll say so but in a nicer way
So, once you start communicating with each other, you know exactly what the problem is, Moreover you solve problem on a periodical basis so that they don’t pile up.